UK councillor refuses to be shamed after Grindr profile is shared online

Rochdale councillor Paul O’Neill has refused to be shamed after images of his Grindr profile were circulated online. His response has drawn support from Facebook users who questioned why a councillor’s dating life should be treated as a public controversy.

Paul, who represents North Heywood in Greater Manchester, said two people had created accounts on the gay men’s dating app, found his profile and shared screenshots. Responding on Facebook, he confirmed the profile was his and described what had happened as an invasion of privacy.

“I am not remotely ashamed to have a social and dating life,” he wrote.

He also made clear that having a private life did not affect his work as a ward councillor. Rather than apologise for being on a dating app, he found room for humour in his response.

“I’m single. Worst thing that can happen is I might get a date or two out of this, right?”

The account circulating the images linked them to his public role and subsequently claimed it had “exposed” him. But being a councillor does not remove someone’s right to a personal life, and using a dating app is not wrongdoing that needs exposing.

Paul has the right to live, date and be himself without being humiliated for it. This is about treating another human being with dignity and recognising that a public role does not make every part of someone’s private life public property.

Nobody should have to justify their sexuality or their wish to meet someone. Sharing a person’s dating profile to shame them can cause real hurt, and they should not have to laugh it off to deserve support.

Facebook users echoed that support in the Rochdale Borough Noticeboard group. Several questioned why his sexuality or dating life should concern anyone else.

Janet wrote: “My first question is what’s it got to do with any of us what a councillor’s sexuality is? Those two people need to grow up and try helping their community.”

Others praised Paul personally and welcomed his refusal to be embarrassed. Mark wrote: “FANTASTIC response from a man who is proud to be who he is. as I am proud to call him my friend.”

Dave offered encouragement with a message that matched Paul’s own humour: “I hope you get a date or two, that’s the whole point of dating sites. There are some very sad individuals walk amongst us, it’s nobody elses business. Good luck.”

Paul ended his statement by bringing the focus back to the people he represents. He reminded residents of his ward surgery at Recovery Republic on 3 October at 10.30am.